Decisions.
It’s common and not an entirely bad thing to want to make the “right” decision instead of the “wrong” decision.
We all want our decisions to be validated in the crucible of reality.
But it is fallacious to assume either that there are only two alternatives (the right one or the wrong one), or that the reason that some decisions don’t work out has to do with a fatal flaw in the original decision.
Let’s take the two problems one at a time.
First, that there is a “right” decision to be made and all other decisions are flatly “wrong”.
This either-or, blank-and-white thinking is naive at best if not outright dangerous.

Instead of a fork in the road, imagine a chess board. There are many possible moves to make. There are multiple strategies one might select and/or switch between. There is also another player involved who is making decisions with varying degrees of precision, shrewdness and finesse of their own.
Imagine then an (as yet not invented) eight-person chess game with an octagonal gigantic chess board. Multiple decision-makers and multiple dynamics (more…)








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