For many things like confidentiality, favorite foods, and things to fear, most of us have no problem trusting ourselves above all other voices.
But for other things, like working style, decision-making, creativity, and work quality, too many of us seem to believe that there exist standards, criteria and models of excellence to which we must aspire—and until we attain—we must in the mean time defer to those who do.
The main problem is that these ones who do… do not exist either.
In other words, we are comparing ourselves to standards and models who do not exist.
Worse than that, the people, bosses, gurus, etc. who are judging us as inadequate, are faking it themselves.
Faking it, though, is too strong a word. Some are faking it, to be sure. Others are simply going about their business being themselves. They are not pretending to be doing anything “right” or “best” or “successfully”. They are showing up, diving in, and leaving all that self-consciousness at the door.
So when I title this article “Trusting Yourself”, I am not talking about putting on bravado, arrogance, elitism, or making decisions in a vacuum in order to demonstrate your competence.
I am talking about an unforced and unrehearsed comfort in one’s skills, training, character and judgment. A calm confidence that who I am is enough.
Comfortable with all that I do and do not bring to the table, I offer my opinions boldly, I listen attentively, I participate actively, I interact respectfully.
My goal is to increasingly trust myself to be fully me. Do you trust yourself?
Or are you haunted by the myths, standards, and messages of success, effectiveness and capabilities suggested by others?
On your side,
- Karl Edwards