Have  you ever thought that you should be more than you are? More experienced, more skilled, more relational, more organized, etc.?
Our hiring practices can lead us to believe that there are ideal people out there somewhere. And we mistakenly conclude that we are not one of them.
We compare diverse, complex individuals against our idealized preferences as laid out in a depersonalized list of job responsibilities, qualifications, and characteristics.
(We’ll leave the disasters and complications that such a process creates for the hiring process for another article.)
For today, though, I want to look at how we inadvertently buy into and compare ourselves with these idealized myths of the omni-competent professional.
Well of course we always come up short against such an unfair and unrealistic comparison.
Many of us react by thinking we should be other than we are… more than we are. We think we are lacking in some regard, deficient, or inadequate.
The result of such thinking is disastrous.
Once we believe that we are not enough or wish that we were more than we are, we begin behaving accordingly. We sabotage our own well-earned giftedness, (more…)
