Loving Monday: Bring It

Few things are more frustrating than the obvious oversights of those with whom we work. Even more frustrating is when those oversights, blind spots, or shortcomings are with those who have more power than us on the organizational chart.

They create unworkable situations and then blame us for them not working out.

We kick the wall, curse the gods, and accuse the incompetents around us of making our jobs impossible. Yes, we blame them right back.

What if, though, you had eyes to see something that they were blind to? What if you had an ability or capacity that they did not have?

What if they needed you to bring your eyes and ability to that problematic situation, and all you did was stand back and blame them for not being able to either see it or deal with it themselves?

It’s like pointing out that a puzzle is missing a piece without realizing that you are in fact that missing piece!

What you have been experiencing as a negative or frustrating situation is actually a wonderful situation. You have a gift! You have a contribution to make that no one else can make! You are needed!

Bring it!

It’s like a couple at home who can’t agree on whether or not the house is clean. To one it seems immaculate because all the clothes are off the floor, the newspaper is put away and the kitchen counters are clear. To the other the house if filthy because there is dust on the blinds, the floors haven’t been mopped in a week, and there are water spots on the bathroom mirror.

It doesn’t do any good to blame the person who does not see the dust, grime and water spots. They simply don’t notice such things. You can wish they were different all you want, but all the wishing in the world is not going to give them eyes for dust.

The key, at work (as well as at home), is to bring your observations, you insights, and your methods to the table. Instead of blaming others for not having your skills, bring your skills. Instead of

The best part is that instead of coming across as a complainer and against their efforts, you get to come across as an ally and a supporter of their efforts. You become the hero instead of the villain.

Bring it.

On your side,

– Karl Edwards

Loving Monday is a weekly column designed to encourage us to step into our weeks with an intention to show up authentically, engage fully, and choose to make it a good week for ourselves. Explore past columns here.