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Loving Monday: The Bigger Truth About You

loving_mondayIt’s true, your boss should have noticed your initiative and responded with a promotion or a raise. It’s true.

It’s true, your client should have noticed that your project came in on time and under budget and paid you promptly and given you promising referrals as well. It’s true.

It’s true that your co-workers should have noticed how you help out and responded by returning the favor. It’s true that your spouse should have noticed your hard work and responded with more affirmation and confidence.

It’s true.

While it is true that others often get it wrong about you, it is not true that they need to get it right about you before you can move forward, find your way, or achieve success.

The bigger truth about you is that you have to step to the plate again even if you aren’t being noticed, appreciated, rewarded or supported.

The bigger truth about you is that no one can either be you or fully grasp what having you on the team means.

Therefore, if in your discouragement you pull out of the team, withdraw from the game, or withhold what you have to contribute while everyone will miss out, only you will know it and be diminished by it.

We punish no one but ourselves when we withhold ourselves from the task at hand.

We save nothing for ourselves in the future by not giving all of ourselves in the present.

The bigger truth about you is that ultimately you need to be the main one noticing, appreciating, rewarding and supporting yourself. Once you are believing in yourself, taking care of yourself and giving yourself fully to the task at hand, then you are better positioned to think about how to engage with other peoples’ unfortunate and unacceptable responses.

Instead of waiting year after year until the others open the door for you, pave your way, or give you a prize, you will already be in motion being fully yourself today.

It’s true.

How would you describe the bigger truth about you?

On your side,

– Karl Edwards

Loving Monday is a weekly column designed to encourage us to step into our weeks with an intention to show up authentically, engage fully, and choose to make it a good week for ourselves. Explore past columns here.

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