Karl Edwards presents Working Matters

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  • Surviving Uncertainty and Stress

    Uncertainty and Stress

    What’s the most stressful part of hearing rumors of lay-offs? Possibly losing one’s job? Possibly losing a valuable team member? No. Neither actually. It’s the uncertainty.

    Think about it. Uncertainty.

    How will the weak economy affect you? Uncertainty. What will happen at your performance review? Uncertainty. The person who hired you is fired. Uncertainty. An unexpected opportunity presents itself. Uncertainty.

    Give me a defined problem any day. I can face a disaster. I can get help with a problem. I can develop a new skill. I can confront a bully. But please don’t leave me hanging.

    The key to surviving uncertainty is not to beg, bargain or complain, manipulate or manufacture certainty. Certainty is elusive at best and not possible in many instances.

    The key to surviving uncertainty is to identify which choices are in your control and which choices are not. By letting go of the things outside of your control (e.g. the economy, a supervisor’s idiosyncracies, the weaknesses over in the sales department, etc.), you can focus on the things you can control.

    Where do you have control? Ask yourself, “Where can my choices make a difference?”

    You can find new ways to add value and engage more fully with your current position. You can nurture your network of relationships, near and far, so that you have positive connections in a variety of contexts. You can find opportunities to learn new skills and expand current ones, especially skills that are transferable across a variety of fields.

    The negative stress associated with uncertainty will be replaced with a sense of purposefulness and personal power. Though those with more power in the organization may make decisions that complicate your life, you will know that you are doing all you can to be a value-adding team member, a well-connected community member, and an irrepressible transferable skill developer.

    Instead of worrying, you will be ready to make your next decision. Now, that feels good!

    On your side,

    – Karl Edwards

  • Listen In -> Uncertainty & Stress #3: Knowing Where Your Money is Going

    Keeping our focus on the things that we can control, our attention shifts this week to our personal finances.

    Many people feel they have no choices when it comes to money. It’s all gone before the next pay check even arrives. The bills pile up, and the thought of losing your job keeps you up at night.

    Do we really have no choices? Or could it be that there are some choices available that we do not see?

    In this week’s podcast conversation, we suggest taking a look at where you spend your money. Try breaking down your expenses into three categories: fixed commitments, flexible values, and discretionary extras.

    You’ll be surprised at what you find. Just knowing where you have choices will take an enormous weight off your shoulders.

    Listen in.

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  • Listen In -> Uncertainty & Stress #1: Taking the Stress Out of Uncertainty

    We are surrounded by uncertainty. Economists can’t agree whether or not we’re in a recession. Large corporations in the news are cutting back on staff and closing factories and storefronts. The government is mailing out stimulus checks to spark some spending.

    This week we begin a new podcast series entitled Taking the Stress Out of Uncertainty.

    Instead of losing sleep over the things we cannot control, listen in over the next five weeks as Claudia and I discuss what is in our control.

    • Week #1: Taking the Stress Out of Uncertainty
    • Week #2: Add Value to Your Current Job
    • Week #3: Know Where Your Money is Going
    • Week #4: Build Your Transferable Skills
    • Week #5: Stay Connected to Your Relationship Network

    Listen in.

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  • Deciding to Make Your Next Choice

    ChoicesDecision-making requires choices. But choices do not always suggest what decision needs to be made.

    We would like our options to lay themselves out neat and tidy as easy-to-compare alternatives where the pros and cons of each translated into a prioritized ranking with the clear winner presenting itself plainly.

    No such luck!

    Instead, a myriad of unrelated issues collide into incoherent and often contradictory alternatives from which every gain involves its share of setbacks.

    My suggestion is to give up trying to make the “right” choice and settle on making the next choice. The next choice can be made over and over again, with appropriate adjustments for learning from previous choices.

    Trying to discern the “right” or “correct” choice can quickly absorb a disproportionate amount of time and energy. The “next” choice can be incremental, experimental, and partial. You will be in motion making your “next” choice, which is far more productive than sitting still while searching for the “right” choice.

    Do you have trouble making choices when no clear alternative presents itself? I’d love to hear a story or two about a recent decision-making quandary you faced.

    On your side,

    – Karl

  • Lessons from Eliot Spitzer

    You have to read this post from Ellen Weber on how our own choices can sabotage our efforts. Even if the fall-out from our choices isn’t as dramatic as Eliot Spitzer’s, we all find ourselves doing things that work against our goals.

    Click over to her Brain-Based Business site and check out her insightful list of ten ways we shoot ourselves in the foot. These include: avoiding risk, dodging reflection, procrastinating, and choosing insincerity among others.

    While not exactly thrilled to see some of my choices on the list, understanding the how and why behind how those choices affect (read damage) my capacity to choose as I’d like in the future, was a real eye-opener. I gained a new motivation to choose differently.

    Who’s side are you on? Not always your own, it seems.

    I say we change that today.

  • When the Means Have Become Ends

    If you have a focused, hard-driving working style, it can be difficult to see alternatives that merit consideration.

    In this week’s discussion of our 4th podcast on recovering from bad New Year’s resolutions, we’re looking at those who are disciplined and intentional to the point of rigidity. They’re getting amazing things done, but have become slaves to their methodology.

    What we’re looking for are ways to turn the equation around and get back in touch with the original attraction that motivated the New Year’s resolution in the first place. The “means” have become the “ends,” and we want to recover our ability to identify and stay in touch with the goal (i.e. the original “ends”) we’re shooting for.

    The tendency to switch attention to our means and methods can blind us to the impact our actions are having on others. Our heightened focus comes at the expense or our peripheral vision.

    To focus on the means is like trying to drive straight by looking at the lines on the road. There is a limit to what you can observe by doing that. To focus on the ends is to direct your eyes down the road to where you want to end up. The steering takes care of itself and your peripheral vision is freed up to notice exponentially more.

    Enhancing your peripheral vision doesn’t necessitate becoming less focused, but more. The difference is whether your focus is on the means or the ends.

    Catch up on the entire series on Bad Resolution Recovery.